This entry was posted on Wednesday, March 25th, 2009 at 6:20 am and is filed under General health. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
PREGNANCY: ADVICE AND “ADVICE”
Even in these enlightened days, there is advice and there is “advice.” Good advice can often provide a sound, helpful backdrop for future events, but there is a surprising number of people who seem to recall only the negative side of parenthood. Maybe it is a reflection of their own personalities or of their own personality defects, inner inhibitions and anxieties. But some older women seem to delight in offering “advice” that is not worth having.
They seem to delight in going over the unhappy incidents of their own past adversities in minutest detail. They will describe with intimate detail the pain, the suffering and the agony of their own confinements. They will take great delight in downgrading the doctor, the hospital, the nursing staff, the food, the circumstances. Nothing, it seems, went right. So they will tell and retell to any available ear, of the unhappy event that constituted their obstetric past.
Turn a deaf ear to these Job’s comforters. A closer check will often pinpoint the true source of the problem. It was not the medical attendants, or the unsatisfactory hospital conditions, or the lack of attention in many cases, but their own strange approach to life. Many expected trouble from the start. Maybe they had been adversely programmed by some foolish woman early in their pregnancy, and looked for things to go wrong. In this world, “Seek and you shall find.” This often means bad things as well as good things! Never forget it.
So, try to avoid the troublemakers, and those who seem to find a fiendish glee in unnerving you and throwing unhappiness your way in the guise of offering “sound advice.” Turn away, and steer clear of these Jeremiahs (male and female) from that point forward.
If you have questions, the best idea is to make a note of these day by day. Then, when you attend your doctor for your regular prenatal checks, take the list along with you. Check them off with him one by one. He will give you an honest, experienced, straightforward answer. This is by far the best way of gaining accurate answers to any question you may have in your mind. This applies to any part of your forthcoming confinement or the events occurring during your pregnancy.
So, summing up. Share your happiness with your close friends and those you feel you can trust. Enjoy their encouragement and approval. But go easy on the potential troublemakers. Lastly, stick with the doctor and his advice in most matters.
There are lots of factors that you will need to know. There are certain matters on which you must make a decision. Many of these must be done in consultation with somebody else. But here are some of the chief features that will exercise your mind from an early start.
*57/76/5*
Random Posts
Leave a Reply
You must be logged in to post a comment.