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MARRIAGE: BABY’S INBUILT COMPUTER
However, after the initial euphoria has worn off a little, it soon gets down to a fairly regular routine. And routine there must be. Wives and husbands would do well to consider this, and if it has not already been done, work out a sensible, workable timetable. Maybe there will be a reassessment of the “delineation of duties”. Often the husband will have to give added time and attention to duties that once belonged to his wife. Caring for a baby can take time and effort. Breast-feeding (still the best idea, safest and most economical) takes time and effort too. Often wives become very tired particularly with night feeds and the interruptions that inevitably occur during the first year
Many mothers get out of bed an inordinate number of times at night, just to make sure baby is “still breathing.” Fortunately, most are.
However, it is a mistake to overdo the attention factor. Babies have their own little built-in computers too. Very quickly they learn that being nursed is great. Having fuss and attention is also very reassuring. Yelling babies invariably find that soothing, cooing, maternal care will result, so they rapidly learn how to gain attention.
Parents should quickly learn how to control the situation, and not to let the baby start to rule the home. I’ve seen this happen so often I’ve long since stopped thinking it funny or desirable. It is pathetic. A great many women (often first-time mothers) wear themselves to a frazzle by letting the baby take over and rule their lives. In this way, they lose precious sleep, and simply dance attention on their offspring.
It is best for parents to have certain fairly well-planned ideas on baby care. For example, how often have we seen a mother trying to settle the baby down at night, only to see dad walk in (full of exuberance, having told the office all about junior’s latest advances) wake up the child and play with him, overexcite him, and then listen to him yell and carry on for the next several hours because of his overexcited state? When it comes to settling him down when he (dad) thinks it is time to opt out, the baby wants to keep up with the fun and games. So, a vicious circle is easily established.
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